Posted by Arnessa on September 13, 1997 at 20:13:54:
In response to characters, written by Deborah C. on September 10, 1997 at 16:52:11
NOTE: FOR SHORTER VERSION, SKIP TO LAST GRAF. I GET CARRIED AWAY AT TIMES.
I can identify with both Elinor and Marianne in their different ways, though I do tend to defend Marianne more because she seems to need my defending.
But it is interesting to see how one reacts to a situation when it is no longer fiction. I was trying to understand how I could really feel that people were expecting too much of the Queen in the last several days, and still feel a value for Marianne's emotiveness. And how several people who seem to identify with Elinor can appear to fault the Queen for the appearance of detachment.
Did not Elinor, when she was pained by the apparent loss of Edward to Lucy, pretend everything was as usual? I know lots of people will say that a death is different from a broken heart. But Elinor even seemed to fault Marianne and her mother for their show of grief upon losing their father. It was Elinor who, though she felt as acutely sad as they, seemed to make an effort to appear as normal in public.
Hil is right. There should be balance. Ideally there should. But still, I think it is terribly wrong for anyone to presume to tell anyone else (even public figures) how to show sadness or happiness or any other emotion.
However, there may have been something more to the criticism that the palace endured during that time. Maybe people felt with some justification that the Queen's relationship with Diana was not what it should have been, and were angry at that, and were looking to see any sign of disrepect in the handling of the funeral arrangements. (There was a article on how Charles was criticized for wearing a dark blue suit to the funeral, until people were told that he wore it because Diana liked him in it.)
But in general (and this is the point of all this), I could understand the Queen's initial reaction.... EVEN though I love Marianne's personality. Strange isn't it? Marianne, had she been Queen, probably would have required the entire country to wear mourning clothes for weeks, don't you think?
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