Valuing what is rare: another sense
Posted by Hil on September 11, 1997 at 00:12:50:
In response to Valuing what is rare, written by Arnessa on September 10, 1997 at 21:14:24
The notion that you just don't unburden yourself to any person at any moment can be a good one. Of course, there are drawbacks, serious ones, to not feeling free to express emotions. But on the whole, I think I'd wish the pendulum would swing a bit the other way in America.But apparently, it's not going to. And even worse, other countries seem to be emulating us!
It is certainly becoming more like that here, on TV, anyway.
] The biggest problem, I think, is that once you start waving out a banner of emotions, the next person feels like he has to have a BIGGER banner to show that he really cares, and on and on, until your reactions to events aren't at all related to your real feelings but instead to the reactions of others.
Yes. Unburdening oneself to all and sundry, in a way devalues the strength of one's reaction, even if it appears the opposite. And it devalues the specialness (or rarity, to come back to that in another sense)of having special people to whom you unburden, those who understand and support you, as a special person. So overall it devalues human relations? Do you think?
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