Groom's advertisement & other novelties
Posted by Patricia Bingham on September 11, 1998 at 03:20:39:
Here are a few interesting pieces from Wedding Customs and Folklore by Margaret Baker:
ADVERTISING FOR BRIDES:
28 May, 1797, Bell's Weekly Messenger carried the following message:
'May no miscarriage prevent my marriage.'
Matthew Dawson, in Bothwell, Cumberland, intends to be married at Holm Church, on the Thursday before Whitsuntide next, whenever that may happen, and to return to Bothwell to dine.
Mr. Reid gives a turkey to be roasted; Ed Clemston gives a fat lamb to be roasted; Wm. Elliot gives a hen to be roasted; Jos. Gibson gives a fat calf to be roasted. And , in order that all this raost meat be well basted, do you see Mary Pearson, Betty Hodges, Mary Bushly, Molly Fisher, Sarah Brisco and Betty Porthouse, give, each of them, a pound of butter.
and he hereby notice, TO ALL YOUNG WOMEN desirous of changing their condition, that he is at present disengaged; and advises them to consider, that althou' there be luck in leisure, yet, in this case delays are dangerous; for with him, he is determined it shall be first come first served.
So come along lasses who wish to be married
Matt. Dawson is vex'd that so long he had tarried.
TEASING THE PARSON:
At Lanedy, in Wales, in the early 19c, matters were out of hand. The parson, rather than the couple, was bombarded with an accurate salvo of nuts and apples. 'The easy going clergyman would take no other notice of it other than brushing these missles off the open page of his prayer-book. But a young curate names Morris...put a sudden and final stop at such interruptions. At the first that he celebrated, on being struck by some nuts, he looked up, marked a prominent offender, closed his book, jumped over the chancel rails, seized the man, and flung him neck and crop right through the window...' The culprit suffered three broken ribs and not surprisingly the custom ceased forthwith.
At Donigton-on-Bain, Lincolshire, all the old women of the parish, 'with an ardour unabated by the chill of the age', tossed hassocks at the bridal party. All went well until about 1780 when the rector was accidently hit by a flying hassock. Again the custom was abruptly halted.
In Scotland and the North of England the parson, however shy, was expected to kiss the bride. A Durham lady, marrying away from home and banking on the customary salute, 'after waiting for it in vain...boldly took the initiative and bestowed a kiss upon the astonished south country vicar'. Another clergyman was told by a dawdling bridal party 'Please sir, you've no kissed Mollie.' It was lucky to kiss the bride before her husband could do so, but if the parson were not shy there was another problem: A scotish bridegroom stated the difficulty:
It's no very decent for you to be kissing,
It does not look well with the black coat ava,
'Twould hae set you far better tae hae gi'en us your blessing,
Than thus by such tricks be breaking the law.
Dear Watte, quo' Robin, it's just an old custom,
An' the thing that is common should ne'er be ill ta'en,
For where ye are wrong, if you had na a-wished him,
You should ha'been first. It's yourse' to blame!
THE MORNING AFTER
Scottish bridegrooms had a particularly trying day after the wedding. 'Tis the custom for the friends to endeavor the next day...to make the newly-married man as drunk as possible.' wrote Allan Ramsay in 1721. 'Creeling' was a further ordeal. The bridegroom's friends fixed on his back a creel or basket full of stones (representing newly-assumed and weighty responsibilities). He was made to run round touwn and was not allowed to drop his burdon. His friends took good care that he did not! Only if the bride kissed him - and she might ge a tease, or shy - was he released. The custom was self-perpetuating since the last man creeled was in charge and full of egalitarianism. But the custom, in Galshiels at least, was brought to a halt when about 1800 one Robert Young, on pretense of 'sore back', lay abed all day following his wedding, flatly refused to rise to be creeled: he had been married twice before, he said, and had had more than enough of creeling!
- The rest of the story? Cheryl 16:42:50 9/11/98 (5)
- Yes your quotations are always diverting... Ann2 15:43:37 9/11/98 (0)
- LOL Davidia 12:51:55 9/11/98 (0)
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