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Posted by P. Bingham on April 08, 1998 at 23:25:32:
In response to Since you wanted more details...., written by April V. on April 08, 1998 at 22:30:40
This is only assuming that you would want your lady to marry as soon as possible:
If her deceased husband was much older than her and she entered the marriage under a financial situation much beneath him, and by his death she was left wealthy, then there might be some talk if she married before one year (assuming that this is the acceptable allotted time, of course!). However, having a child would probably excuse her, unless the child was known not to be the deceased husband's.
If the circumstances of the marriage seem usual to you, i.e. relative ages, relative social backgrounds, etc., then it would be alright if the widow remarried after a few months, given that she had a child to raise. Whatever time you do choose, if it is before the one year (or two years if that is correct) then you would merely need to make mention that your lady is aware that she is marrying before it might be proper, and point out the circumstances, just so that you don't seam like a dunce!
However the time allotted, people were often more practical than many would think. There might be people who speak of this or that person marrying perhaps a bit too hastily, but I think you would see that even today. Look at the situation of a widower who has several young children. The situation would necessitate that they be given a mother as soon as possible, this might be a governess instead, but a practical man will just marry, regardless of the gossip that may or may not insue. Not only is he getting a mother for his children but also, perhaps, more money or holdings!
Good Luck!
Patricia
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