moving
Posted by Caroline on March 22, 1998 at 22:18:02:
In response to why write ANOTHER biography?, written by Kate on March 22, 1998 at 08:58:25
In the last twenty-five years, I have moved twenty-three times-sometimes really big moves (five inter-country, three inter-provincial.) It's a function of my lifestyle, and I've learned to adapt to it.However, it is distressing, and stressful, whether it's your decison or not(in fact, it's supposed to be the most stressful thing that can happen to you other than divorce or death of family member.)I have often observed that people who are uprooted, suddenly, from the place they have lived in for ever, have few personal resources to help them adapt..it takes them a great deal of time to settle again.There is so much to learn, so many details to attend to in the process of basic living (finding doctors, dentists, hairdressers, schools,learning the new language(even if you spoke it perfectly well before!), learning new habits and customs. In this learning period, which can take years in some people, the private things that really matter to your peace of mind are often put on "hold" until the immediate problems are worked through. I find the first six months of living in a place, I rarely do things that really satisfy my soul, like deep reading, sewing for myself (Curtains etc. are always a priority!)and drawing for the heck of it.
So I find Tomalin's stance entirely reasonable!
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