Squaking at the wrong henhouse
Posted by Rachel on December 02, 1997 at 17:40:09:
In response to Chicken and the Egg, written by Mark on December 02, 1997 at 10:03:34
In this case, I think love and respect go hand in hand very much . . . I do not say that only respect was needed, I say that love had to have respect, but love could not grow just because one respects another; I think of Jane Eyre and St. John.
". . . we must be married, I repeat it: there is no other way; and undoubtedly enough of love would follow upon marriage to render the union right even in your eyes."
This is somewhat off-topic, but follow me. How many people think that the love St. John spoke of was the real, true love that people seek? It wasn't. I don't think Lizzie would have married Colonel Fitzwilliam because she just really didn't love him; that spark just wasn't there.
And as for Mr. Darcy, she didn't truly respect him, so she couldn't marry him.
When Lizzie says, "I am deturmined that nothing but the very deepest love will enduce me into matrimony," I think she thought that she didn't want to marry a man she did not love, because even if she respected him, it would be a hard life. I may be misguided, but I think that you could marry a man you respected, but I don't think it would have been truly worth it. However, I agree with you;
"So I suspect we can argue the various shades of love versus respect forever and really be arguing for the same side, or only differing by hair breadths of shading."
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