Please don't confuse P&P with P&P2! (long)
Posted by Mark on December 01, 1997 at 19:39:28:
In response to That and also..., written by Constanza on December 01, 1997 at 08:30:30
Where does it say in the book that Lizzie will only marry for love? Nowhere that I recall. Instead, her re-occuring matrimonal theme appears to be respect. She had to respect her partner and he her, or no dice!
Think of what her father (who knows her better than anyone) said:
``Lizzy,'' said her father, ``I have given him my consent. He is the kind of man, indeed, to whom I should never dare refuse any thing, which he condescended to ask. I now give it to you, if you are resolved on having him. But let me advise you to think better of it. I know your disposition, Lizzy. I know that you could be neither happy nor respectable, unless you truly esteemed your husband; unless you looked up to him as a superior. Your lively talents would place you in the greatest danger in an unequal marriage. You could scarcely escape discredit and misery. My child, let me not have the grief of seeing you unable to respect your partner in life. You know not what you are about.''
Let's not forget what she says to Mr. Collins:
You could not make me happy, and I am convinced that I am the last woman in the world who would make you so,
Add that to what she said in that fateful first proposal:
Had not my own feelings decided against you, had they been indifferent, or had they even been favourable, do you think that any consideration would tempt me to accept the man, who has been the means of ruining, perhaps for ever, the happiness of a most beloved sister?''
Don't get me wrong. I'm possitive that love is very high up on her list. She wants to love her future spouse. Who wouldn't? But think of all our lively discussions here at Pemberley concerning when she finally loved Darcy. We simply do not know when it occurred because Jane Austen never tells us. I sense it is because love was not Elizabeth's main concern, no matter what Brian Davies might have Jennifer Ehle say.
In fact, am I wrong in saying that the only person in the novel that seems to want to marry for love alone was Lydia?
It has always bothered me a little that Elizabeth spends so much time debating with herself if she loves him or not, that when she finally awknowledges her love to Jane and her father, it's almost like, "Wait a minute. When did THAT happen? Did I miss something?"
Sorry for the long post, but my favorite novel does that to me.
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