To apologize or not to apologize
Posted by Helen on November 25, 1997 at 17:03:57:
In response to double standards,rants and apologies, written by Sherry on November 25, 1997 at 14:34:23
] I apologize for the rant, bear with me. I'm afraid Mark got a little more than what he was asking for with my response. ;-)
] Pleeezzzzee Erin, MB, et al. stop apologizing for your opinions potentially offending others. It is unfortunate that someone was personally attacked on email but is it now neccessary for us all to continously append our posts with apologies? I think a little old fashioned common sense and politeness will suffice. What say you all?
I'm still thinking about the war between the sexes ;-) - but I had to chip in here... I don't think people need apologize for their feelings - but the reason I do it, and I think others do as well, is because I sound off at great length and stray from direct answers to the question, and because I'm used to being told off for being too abstract and intellectual in my answers. So this kind of apology is really to pre-empt criticism of the "oh, come on, why talk about this like that" kind which I always expect.
I think it's part of the "getting to know people in cyberspace" thing: if they apologize, you can tell that they have some qualms about what they say or how they say it, and so you can be gentle with them in reply (I hope people are with me, anyway ;-) ). Otherwise, you think that they are 100% confident and cam be brisker...
yours so neurotic as to make Woody Allen look like John Wayne in the "not at all anxious" department,
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