Posted by Cassia on October 29, 1997 at 15:10:35:
In response to Solitude and fire, written by kate on October 29, 1997 at 07:14:19
] Sorry about all these posts - I was rereading the correspondence last night and so much occurred to me that I had to post about it.
] The letter from C to A after he has embraced her in the park is fascinating, I think. She speaks of needing to maintain her solitude, which is, as we have discussed, a constant theme in the book, and the threat to it which he poses.
I think that is always the problem of the independant and intelligent woman: Is it impossible to have both independance and companionship, independance and passion? I'm not sure that it is possible for a woman to have both at the same time. I want it be be possible, mind, but I'm almost certain that it will never be.
] I also find his plea for a little bit of happiness with her, which will not affect her solitude or independence somewhat naive, and a little facile for such an intelligent person as Ash. It was easy for a man to assume that a little fling would have not long term consequences... at least not beyond delightful memories.
Men live under different assumptions from women especially when it comes to sex. I've a quote 'F******, had nothing to do with babies.' This sums up the divide for me. We may not want the former to be connected to the latter but it most certainly is and always will be. Perhaps I'm a bit sour about this because I worked for four years in Family Court and I came across this idea on a daily basis. Not a happy place.
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