Posted by Hil on October 24, 1997 at 16:09:33:
In response to All That And More, written by Cassia on October 24, 1997 at 13:56:30
] ] If you hold "val" up to a mirror, what do you see?
] I don't believe either of them are lazy; they are much more disheartened. Roland because he always seems to just miss the boat, Val because she seems to have Carly Simon's "That's the Way I always Heard It Should Be" chorussing in her head. Val is the kind of personality who would be excellant as the 'woman behind the man'. She most likely never felt her ideas were good enough so when she met Roland, who was a great undergraduate, she gave up the idea of putting her own forth.
] Part of the reason I began to think of Val this way was a conversation I had with a male, Rush Limbaugh loving, friend. One of the things he said he always envied about women was that it is socially acceptable for a woman to rely upon people in a way that people would take for weakness in a man. Calvin is no leader and has no desire to be, but it doesn't mean he's any the less trustworthy for this. We under estimate the skills it takes to be a good follower or even a second in command. this tendancey derves us ill; afterall, a leader must have followers. No one can be an army of one.
Yes I agree they are more defeated than lazy. I guess its a fine line between the two sometimes. And I like the point about followers.
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