re:Byronic=Moronic (love that!)
Posted by Sherry on October 16, 1997 at 15:06:19:
In response to "Byronic=Moronic", written by Cassia on October 16, 1997 at 13:52:30
] Ah, there's the nub of the problem. I cannot find Rochester attractive because I cannot find any of his brothers in fiction attractive. The broody type are always more trouble than they are worth. This I know from experience when I went out with one for a few months. Going out with someone who doesn't consider what you would want is not a good experience. And this is what I charge the Brooders with. I think this type exist in the imagination as a kind of emotional DYI project. Long trains of "if onlys" run through the mind. The thing is, this doesn't work; men resent it when women is the attempt to change them. Women don't tend to like it much either. Still, I can see why some might want to take on the task: the attempt to build an ideal man from the clay of his present life, the chance tod be the heroine. Doesn't work.
It is true Cassia that some brooding men are bereft of all good qualities and you should avoid them. Not all are though. In any case whether they are or not , You cannot change another person only they can do that and Erin might say they can't even do that. I believe though that if there is some inherent good in them and they WANT to connect to it then all is not lost. This is for the most part what is going on with the Byronic Heroes. They are deep down, good.
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