Re: Hate vs Love
Posted by Cassia on September 24, 1997 at 16:48:42:
In response to hate vs love, written by AnneM on September 23, 1997 at 20:51:15
] ] I think the key to this lies further on in the same conversation when Helen says
Besides, with this creed, I can so clearly distinguish between the criminal and his crime; I can so sincerely forgive the first while I abhor the last..."
] ] The trick is to be able to feel this way about those not our relations. I struggle with this all the time and rarely succeed, but I am trying. Imagine the peace of not having to carry around all that hate and resentment! I hope to get there someday, but I have a very long way to go.
] So glad to hear the wonderful outcome with your brother. Simular situation down here, we are waiting on the resolution!
] I have always tried to "hate the action, love the person" but like you said, they are hard to separate. (if not impossible)
I think this is way all human societies have had to develope moral/ethical codes. It seems most natural to hate both the person and their actions. But until the world grew so large a population doing this could endanger your very life, so we have used, morality, ethics, manners and ettiquette to allow us to maintain contact with those we don't necessarily approve of or like.
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