opposites attract, but will it last?
Posted by lisa in va on October 17, 1997 at 13:35:30:
In response to Let's do it!, written by Kali on October 17, 1997 at 02:53:18
Emma as ENFP and Knightley as ISTJ seem right on track to me. (Eeek...did I say "Knightley"? I sound like Mrs. Elton.)
But with regard to whether or not opposites make such perfect marriage partners....
Mr. Knightley and Emma are so right, IMO, because he is still her elder, her teacher, her model. She still has so much to learn from him.
But I've always wondered whether their relationship could remain strong as she matures. Will they be able to develop into true equals? I think that Emma has learned humility, and learned the she is not really as grown-up and wise as she thought she was. But I don't think she desires a relationship in which she will always be the learner, the subservient (sp?) one.
Incidentally, I'm INFJ, and my husband is ESTP. We've made it ten years so far! But I think opposites have to relate as equals, have to agree that their differences strengthen them, and that each one's traits make the relationship more complete.
I'm not sure that I feel that way about Emma and Mr. Knightley...how does Mr. Knightley really need Emma's liveliness or wit or creativity? He always seemed so perfect already to me.
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