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Written by Ingrid Linnéa
(9/16/2003 7:10 p.m.)
Earlier in this group read we have been discussing the immaturity and likeness of Marianne and Mrs Dashwood. Now not only Marianne, but also Mrs dashwood comes to realize that Elinor has been suffering all along all on her own. This change seems to begin in the end of chapter 47:
Mrs. Dashwood feared to hazard any remark, and ventured not to offer consolation. She now found that she had erred in relying on Elinor's representation of herself; and justly concluded that everything had been expressly softened at the time, to spare her from an increase of unhappiness, suffering as she then had suffered for Marianne. She found that she had been misled by the careful, the considerate attention of her daughter, to think the attachment, which once she had so well understood, much slighter in reality than she had been wont to believe, or than it was now proved to be. She feared that under this persuasion she had been unjust, inattentive -- nay, almost unkind, to her Elinor: -- that Marianne's affliction, because more acknowledged, more immediately before her, had too much engrossed her tenderness, and led her away to forget that in Elinor she might have a daughter suffering almost as much, certainly with less self-provocation, and greater fortitude.
The result of these reflections is that she too matures a bit - not one day too early IMO. Elinor certainly has had to be the parent in this family. She is only nineteen, yet she has had to carry her burden all alone.
Of course it´s easy to believe that the one that screams loudest also is the one most in pain, but she was after all Elinor´s mother and should have understood her daughter better. Poor Elinor!
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