Fanny's own memories of her childhood at MP, were not of constant humiliation, but mixed with consolation -- her affection for the old schoolroom that had become her private sitting-room -- chap 16 --
"Everything was a friend, or bore her thoughts to a friend; and though there had been sometimes much of suffering to her; though her motives had often been misunderstood, her feelings disregarded, and her comprehension undervalued; though she had known the pains of tyranny, of ridicule, and neglect, yet almost every recurrence of either had led to something consolatory: her aunt Bertram had spoken for her, or Miss Lee had been encouraging, or, what was yet more frequent or more dear, Edmund had been her champion and her friend .......
the claims of her cousins to being obliged were strengthened by the sight of present upon present that she had received from them. The table between the windows was covered with work–boxes and netting–boxes which had been given her at different times, principally by Tom".
Fanny felt strong gratitude, and this is NOT a weakness in her character e.g. when she was at Portsmouth, she was upset that her family made scarcely any inquiry about their Bertram relatives -- chap 38 --
"to have scarcely an inquiry made after Mansfield! It did pain her to have Mansfield forgotten; the friends who had done so much—the dear, dear friends!".