In Ch. 34, Fanny and Mrs Ferrars insult Elinor and Marianne responds

"This is admiration of a very particular kind! -- what is Miss Morton to us? Who knows or who cares for her? It is Elinor of whom we think and speak."

And so saying, she took the screens out of her sister-in-law's hands to admire them herself as they ought to be admired.
... Elinor was much more hurt by Marianne's warmth, than she had been by what produced it;

Does hurt mean embarrassed in this case? This is all before Marianne comes over and starts hugging and crying on Elinor's shoulder. I wonder if Elinor guards her feelings to such an extent that she is bothered by anyone defending them. Anyway I think Mrs. Ferrars and Fanny both needed a SUTH.

In ch.37, when Elinor is opening Marianne's eyes to what she herself has been going through she says:
"I have had to contend against the unkindness of his sister, and the insolence of his mother, and have suffered the punishment of an attachment without enjoying its advantages."

Separately, I also made note of the exchange in Ch. 35, when Edward, Lucy, Elinor, and Marianne are all together, and Marianne says to Edward
"Engaged! But what was that, when such friends were to be met?"

"Perhaps, Miss Marianne," cried Lucy, eager to take some revenge on her, "you think young men never stand upon engagements, if they have no mind to keep them, little as well as great."

Elinor was very angry, but Marianne seemed entirely insensible of the sting;

Then I saw a parallel in these situations, where each Marianne and Elinor are angry for their sister's sake. But Elinor did see that Lucy's comment went over Marianne's head. I wonder if it hadn't, would Elinor have given her a set down? Or would she have refrained to spare Edward's feelings? The fact that Marianne didn't get Lucy's jibe also points to Marianne's always being in the moment. She is talking about Edward here, and doesn't see anything more in Lucy's comment.