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|Rather more doubtful
Written by Tracy W
(10/15/2006 6:29 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, Yes, but ..., penned by James S.
Yes, people do sometimes fall in love at first sight. Other times they don't. JA presents a number of couples in her novels that haven't fallen in love at first sight, and I think we all know of examples in our own lives of people who have had long and happy marriages after a rather slower start.
Secondly, in most potential relationships, even where people fall in love at first sight, there is a negotiating phrase around "does she/he return my feelings?". In Romeo & Juliet Shakespeare gets around this by having Romeo overhear Juliet expressing her feelings for him in what she thinks is privacy. Since Colonel Brandon has no such encouragement, it would be risky for him to go too fast.
It would also be dangerous to court Marianne openly before he is sure of *his* regard for her. Willoughby's behaviour to Marianne convinces his acquaintances that he is engaged, and when Willoughby's engagement to Miss Grey is found out he is ruined in the opinion of his acquaintances:
And Marianne was set against Colonel Brandon, not on the basis of his manners, but on the basis of his age and her romantic opinions:
It strikes me as rather cruel to an orphaned child to propose to rename the child something else, and break her last links to her mother. Colonel Brandon may have felt the same way.
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