conversation. I disagree with you about knowing and experiencing, however. I can know intellectually many things-but to my mind-I can never really know until I've experienced it. I can think or imagine all I want about, let's say, losing a loved one or succeeding at something really important or loving someone. But until I've acutally experienced it, I don't believe the knowledge is complete. Maybe I would know what I might expect to feel or know but-how would I know if those expectations or guesses were correct if I did not experience them. And, I would much rather go to a doctor who actually performed the procedure or surgery than to someone who just read about it.
All I was trying to say was that, to me, EB underwent emotional growth in her concept of love. She went from being flirting with Wickham to loving Darcy enough to marry him. She admits herself that Darcy did not change "in essentials" but "from knowing him better, his disposition was better understood." (Chapter 41)
They were able to complement each other and strenghten their strengths and work on each other's weaknesses through mutual love, respect, esteem, etc. But each had to "grow up" in their concept of romantic love to get to that point.
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