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Clarification Written by Ramya (6/5/2007 10:11 p.m.) in consequence of the missive, You can love someone and still hurt them, penned by Tracy W

I only gave my definition of the words I am using so that my points are clear, not to give their 'true' meanings. :)

Much as Darcy thinks he is love with her, I don't agree it is love. It definitely has the potential to be such, but only when he stops thinking about his own struggles and feelings alone
and starts treating her with the respect she deserves, will it really turn to love.

The fact that he didn't think he was hurting Elizabeth does not excuse his behaviour with me. Perfect behaviour all the time is not necessary, IMO, and like you say, people do misintepret, ignore, or quarrel pointlessly with their partners, but Lizzy was not yet his partner when he proposed. To propose without even the pretense of a courtship was, IMHO, the height of arrogance, not love.

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Darcy's motives in writing the letter Kris L (6/1/2007 12:38 p.m.)

After a rejected proposal, it would have been terrible... Adrian (6/1/2007 1:14 p.m.)
- I think you have it just right, Adrian Cathy Allen (6/1/2007 4:20 p.m.)
  - Your posting just made me wonder about something... Lila (6/1/2007 7:39 p.m.)
    - This may depend on your definition of love Tracy W (6/2/2007 7:08 a.m.)
      - Darcy appears to be a deliberate character...   Lila (6/3/2007 8:36 p.m.)
        
        Interesting argument   Tracy W (6/4/2007 8:06 p.m.)
        
        In answer to Tracy W and Adrian....   Lila (6/4/2007 11:33 p.m.)
        
        I agree with you. Very well put! (nfm)   Lisa M. (6/11/2007 11:43 a.m.)
        
        Lust versus infatuation   Tracy W (6/5/2007 5:23 p.m.)
        
        Lust vs Healthy desire   Ramya (6/5/2007 6:17 p.m.)
        
        You can love someone and still hurt them   Tracy W (6/5/2007 9:23 p.m.)
        
        Clarification   Ramya (6/5/2007 10:11 p.m.)
        
        Is not general incivility the very essence of love?   Adrian (6/6/2007 1:15 p.m.)
        
        General incivility not specific   Ramya (6/6/2007 2:27 p.m.)
        
        Exactly!   Line (6/6/2007 6:33 p.m.)
        
        Thank you for responding in your final paragraph...   Adrian (6/6/2007 6:55 p.m.)
        
        The difficulty of courtship in Regency times   Tracy W (6/5/2007 11:36 p.m.)
        
        Inadequate courtship and mixed signals   Ramya (6/6/2007 2:24 p.m.)
        
        One detail   Deb A. (6/6/2007 9:16 a.m.)
        
        Oops. forgot that, thanks (nfm)   Tracy W (6/6/2007 5:28 p.m.)
        
        Low-key is one thing...   Line (6/6/2007 8:20 a.m.)
        
        I do think Elizabeth was being obtuse for another reason   Tracy W (6/6/2007 5:23 p.m.)
        
        Absolutely, but that's not courting, IMO!   Line (6/6/2007 6:44 p.m.)
        
        I will never seek to defend Darcy's skill at courting   Tracy W (6/7/2007 12:12 a.m.)
        
        Unsurprising?   Kathi (6/7/2007 12:31 a.m.)
        
        Are we reading the same book? :)   Tracy W (6/7/2007 5:06 p.m.)
        
        I don't know, are we? ;-)   Kathi (6/7/2007 9:09 p.m.)
        
        Time to stop (nfm)   Myretta (6/7/2007 9:23 p.m.)
        
        Why would Darcy try to pursuade Lizzy to be...   Adrian (6/6/2007 7:05 p.m.)
        
        Precisely! ;-)   Line (6/6/2007 10:31 p.m.)
        
        Actually I think Darcy does think he is giving Lizzy...   Adrian (6/7/2007 2:04 p.m.)
        
        I agree   Kathi (6/6/2007 8:44 a.m.)
        
        Thank you for this summary of Darcy`s courtship (nfm)   Michaela (6/6/2007 2:36 a.m.)
        
        I too have felt   Ramya (6/4/2007 11:51 p.m.)
        
        You make a good case for Darcy to fall for Jane...   Adrian (6/4/2007 2:11 p.m.)
    - Darcy's love and respect for Lizzy Rebecca K (6/1/2007 9:41 p.m.)
      - Agreed   Margaret S (6/1/2007 11:10 p.m.)
        
        Touche'. nfm   Lila (6/3/2007 8:42 p.m.)
        
        Yes, a voyage of self-discovery   Jessica T (6/2/2007 11:04 a.m.)
        
        Good point nfm   Rebecca K (6/1/2007 11:41 p.m.)

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