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Written by Tracy W
(6/5/2007 5:23 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, In answer to Tracy W and Adrian...., penned by Lila
I'd like to say that, while most red-blooded males experience physical attraction, they also tend to experience in at least one point in their lives, an emotion they at least describe as love. Sexuality is not necessarily separate from love, there are plenty of babies born to happily-married couples, including cases where I know the husband made a number of sacrifices for his wife (and vice-versa). :)
Darcy describes his own feelings for Elizabeth as love: You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you." (chpt 34)
He also does seem to respect Elizabeth on an intellectual level before the proposal:
In their conversations, he is not trying to "top" her witticisms, he replies in similar terms, but not in a way that seeks to intellectually dominate and intimidate her, instead Darcy more opens up in response to Elizabeth's teasing:
"No," said Darcy, "I have made no such pretension. I have faults enough, but they are not, I hope, of understanding. My temper I dare not vouch for. (chpt 11)
I agree that it would have been bad for Elizabeth to have accepted Darcy at the time of their first proposal.
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