But I am still struggling to understand Elizabeth's true feelings. All through the book, even though she is offended by Darcy, she is also intrigued by him. She finds him interesting as is evidenced by her verbal sparring. At one point early on she says to Charlotte, she may even grow afraid of him if she is not careful. In other words, it seems to me that she fears herself in dangering of viewing Darcy as a partner even despite his arrogance and haughtiness... It is only later on, when she finds of Wickam's alleged mistreatment, that she is truly appalled. It seems to me that betrayal and misuse of power are intolerable to her whereas his temper and arrogance do not necessarily take him out of the running.

I do agree however, that because she is generally good natured and good humored, living with a bad tempered man would be difficult, but not if there are other qualities that you admire more. It is not clear to me at all what Lizzie's criteria is, hence my struggle. Of list Line presented I only find (f) to be the most deterring one. It is hard to love someone who does not accept you for who you are, the rest are things most of us who are married live with on one level or another... But maybe Lizzie sees it differently....