I think what Elizabeth meant...
Written by Line
(5/20/2007 9:23 a.m.)
in consequence of the missive, Joke on Lizzy, penned by Robbin
...was that a man in love is absent-minded and uncivil *to other people*, NOT to his beloved (because his mind is on her when he should be thinking of other things)! To her, he is as attentive and civil as you please (which Darcy is not)! ;-)