Actually, I don't really disagree with your position too much (in fact, I've often argued against the position that Lizzy was very deeply wounded by Darcy's comments, making some of the same points).

My post above was made in a different context, however. Michaela had commented that "If I imagine myself in Elizabeths place, I would have startet to like him a lot once I got to know his 'Netherfield" side'" and "I wouldn`t have realized that he changed his view about my person, so I would be quite unhappy about my attraction to him ...still believing me not pretty enough to tempt him." The point I had intended to make was about Darcy's actual feelings (he might have changed his mind about her looks but not her consequence) and thus coming to like him wasn't a good idea. I was not referring to Lizzy's knowledge of those feelings or what influenced them.

However, I have a couple of responses to your comments.

You wrote that "I do not recall Darcy saying anything to Lizzy, or about her within her hearing, about her inferior connections at this point in the novel", but when Darcy refused to "give consequence to young ladies who are slighted by other men," he was refering to Lizzy's lower status in comparison to his own, making her an unacceptable dance partner. So Lizzy did know that Darcy looked down on her for her lower status.