I like this line from ch.61:
I wish I could say, for the sake of [Mrs. Bennet's] family, that the accomplishment of her earnest desire in the establishment of so many of her children produced so happy an effect as to make her a sensible, amiable, well-informed woman for the rest of her life; though, perhaps, it was lucky for her husband, who might not have relished domestic felicity in so unusual a form, that she still was occasionally nervous, and invariably silly.
Here is JA's understanding of human nature at work again, IMO. Mr. Bennet is not miserably waiting and hoping against hope that his wife will change for the better. He gets something from the status quo (perhaps the satisfaction of feeling superior to his wife?), and as the ON says, probably wouldn't know what to do if she suddenly changed into a "sensible, amiable and well-informed woman"!