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Written by JulieW
(2/2/2004 8:22 a.m.)
in consequence of the missive, I think we should..., penned by Line
It might interest you to look at this passage from A Father's Legacy to his Daughters by Dr Gregory, with repsect to the conduct of females whilst being "courted";
There is another caテ, in which I ブパect it is proper to be テcret, not バ much from motives of prudence, as delicacy ; I mean in love matters.
Though a woman has no reaバn to be aドamed of an attachment to a man of merit, yet nature, whoテ authority is ブperior to philoバphy, has annexed a テnテ of ドame to it. It is even long before a woman of delicacy dares avow to her own heart that ドe loves ; and when all the ブbterfuges of ingenuity to conceal it from herテlf fail, ドe feels a violence done both to her pride and to her modeフy. This, I ドould imagine, muフ always be the caテ where ドe is not ブre of a return to her attachment.
It is a maxim laid down among you, and a very prudent one it is, That love is not to begin on your part, but is entirely to be the conテ quence of our attachment to you.
Now, ブppoナng a woman to have テnテ and taフe, ドe will not find many men to whom ドe can poャibly be ブppoテd to bear any conナderable ドare of eフeem.
Among theテ few, it is a very great chance if any of them diフinguiドes her particularly. Love, at leaフ with us, is exceedingly capricious, and will not always fix where reaバn ヂys it ドould.
But ブppoナng one of them ドould become particularly attached to her, it is フill extremely improbable that he ドould be the man in the world her heart moフ approved of.
As, therefore, Nature has not given you that unlimited range in your choice which we enjoy, ドe has wiテly and benevolently aャigned to you a greater flexibility of taフe on this ブbject. Some agreeable qualities recommend a gentleman to your common good liking and friendドip.
In the courテ of his acquaintance, he contracts an attachment to you. When you perceive it, it excites your gratitude ; this gratitude riテs into a preference, and this preference perhaps at laフ advances to バme degree of attachment, eパecially if it meets with croャes and difficulties ; for theテ, and a フate of ブパenテ, are very great incitements to attachment, and are the food of love in both テxes.
If attachment was not excited in your テx in this manner, there is not one of a million of you that could ever marry with any degree of love.
A man of taフe and delicacy marries a woman becauテ he loves her more than any other. A woman of equal taフe and delicacy marries him becauテ ドe eフeems him, and becauテ he gives her that preference. But if a man unfortunately becomes attached to a woman whoテ heart is テcretly pre-engaged, his attachment, inフead of obtaining a ブitable return, is particularly offenナve ; and if he perナフs to teaze her, he makes himテlf equally the object of her ツorn and averナon.
Interesting , isn't it?
The full text is linked below,for anyone interested in reading further.
|A Father'ds Legacy to his Daughters by Dr Gregory|
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