] I don't think it is good for a man to lament his laking of money for another man's doing.

If that man denied him a job he should have had, perhaps he has a right to lament his lack of money as the other man's doing.

] Is it really that we have to blame Darcy for Wickham's misfortunes?

At this point in the group read, do we have any evidence that Wickham is lying? If he's telling the truth, Darcy deprived him of a good job -- probably the best job he would ever have an opportunity to get -- for no better reason that petty jealousy.

] Is he really obliged to probate his father's will? or to fulfill Wickham's wishes?

Darcy's honor should make him feel obligated to fulfill his father's wishes, if not Wickham's.

] Why didn't Lizzy think in this direction? I think b/c of her anger, a woman I think can forgive anything except an insult from a man describes her as tolerable, what if he said ugly about her do you think she will kill him?

What evidence do you have that she was all that angry over being described as tolerable? She told the story with great spirit among her friends, because she delighted in teh ridiculous. Does that sound like a woman who is deeply angery? Unforgiving?