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Written by Nikki N
(4/30/2013 11:49 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, I'm not too sure, penned by Ramya
Perhaps that is the answer -- that Bingley did not want to marry a sweet girl he was in love with unless she returned his feelings -- with "sincere" even if not "equal" regard. Some gentlemen of his era could be willing to do so, but Bingley could be different from such men. Before Darcy's intervention, he had believed that Jane returned his feelings "with sincere, if not equal regard".
As for Wentworth in Persuasion, he realized that he did not love Louisa, but would have proposed to her if he had led her into loving him -- if her feelings for him were that of love, not merely if he might have raised expectations but she did not really love him. Being an honourable man, Frederick W was not going to break Louisa's heart the way Willoughby broke Marianne's heart. If it was merely expectations without love, his absence would have taken care of that. I would not regard it as honourable, but very foolish, if a man felt obliged to propose to a girl when there was no love, merely because some relatives and friends had such expectations -- especially when there might be expectations because of the advantages he could give her in the marriage, not expectations because she loved him, since she did not really love him.
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