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Written by gianni
(4/29/2013 1:10 a.m.)
in consequence of the missive, His reason for writing the letter..., penned by Jim Morris
... so I have to comment on several messages at once, or I'll never get it all out. :-)
Agree strongly with the comment that he was indeed in love -- deeply, at that. But the love was not irrelevant to respect for Lizzy; it grew out of this completely unexpected respect. He's met for the first time a woman who disregards convention and spars openly with great intelligence with anyone who shows a willingness to trade barbs with her -- including, surprisingly, him. He's met, likely for the first time, a woman who doesn't cozy up to him, trying to seduce him into a very profitable marriage. A woman who openly tells him he's been misbehaving!
All this in a woman from a place he firmly believed could produce only empty-headed little gigglers.
Disagree that his proposal showed any disrespect at all for Lizzy. First, I think he did not intend, at least at this point, to propose, although he'd been mulling it over for some time. The entire episode shows to me a blurting out of the deepest feelings of an overburdened heart, prompting not just the expression of his love, but also the somewhat unintended expression of all his doubts. He's made a proposal he truly believes she has to accede to whether she wants it or not (he knows, of course, exactly what her financial future is). He knows, and probably believes she has at least an impression, that he's fundamentally a good man, and believes that he can win her over once she's attached herself, willingly or not, to him and he can show her his private self that he keeps hidden from the unwashed masses, of whom she was previously (in his mind) a member.
Deem unimportant the idea that he, at least, feels he needs to reveal his honesty; he's completely unaware that there might be doubt. He respects Lizzy enough to believe she'll accept his explanations and hide what he wants to keep hidden. If she really doubted the truth of his statements, she'd openly challenge them to all around her, particularly those who might have been involved or had knowledge of the circumstances he describes. If she were the empty head he initially expected, she'd triumphantly crow to all the horrid things he had to say in the (highly improper -- they're not engaged) letter.
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