Written by bridget d
(4/28/2013 7:48 a.m.)
in consequence of the missive, social round, penned by Nikki N
You can't control who you like and are friends with, but you can control "doing your duty" as a gentleman and joining in social life. (And Darcy does join in social life, excpet when he is forced to meet with people of a slightly lower rank... we are told that he has a house in London, that he's been to Court, that he visits various people and has visitors to his country home.)
I agree that JA was too intelligent not to be critical of many of the people SHE met socially, but she was not rude to them, did not refuse to join in their activities and confined herself to sharp remarks in confidence to Cassandra. She is a bit dismissive of those who (like Sir JOhn M and Mr Weston) seem to uncritically like "everybody" and who are not able to occupy themselves on their own at times... who need CONSTANT company...But she regarded socialising as THE important way of interacting with the world (as did most upper class people of her era).