Even though Anne might alos feel justifiably annoyed by her father's and sister's lack of regard for her, I dont see that Lady R would encourage HEr to make a fuss over it either.. since she was aware that it would do no good.. so I'd say that she and indeed Austen would say there was no point in brooding or getting angry over a situation that coudl not be changed, so the best thing was to keep busy and amuse oneself as best one could and Lady R would want Anne to keep busy and find soem enjoyemnt in the particiaption in Bath society...