... he has no reason to believe she wants a reconciliation; I said nothing at all that I can see that would imply otherwise.

Incorrect regarding his opinion of her mind; see the last three paragraphs of ch. 7. That's why I said "weak-hearted" further down; we now see "weak mind" as "weak intelligence". He objected to what he saw as her "weak will" (which is what I wanted to say, but couldn't bring it up before). Anne's strong mind was high intelligence; what Frederick objected to in Anne was her weak will.

We agree completely on your ch. 10 comments, which why I said,

"During the chatter, Louisa comments that she had to practically force Henrietta to go with Charles; Henrietta had been influenced by Mary's sniping to hang back and stay away from Winthrop and Charles Hayter. Frederick replies appropriately, adding some extra comments charged by unpleasant private recollections.

"Then she reveals that Anne had refused Charles Musgrove. Also that Lady Russell is blamed by the family for persuading her not to marry an inferior man. Ann is living up to her old weak-hearted [weak-willed] standard, unfortunately."