Isn't he a peach? He notices that Anne is sitting alone and

He looked at her with a smile, and a little motion of the head, which expressed, "Come to me, I have something to say"

Can't you just picture him doing this? But then he tells her of his commission to get Benwick's miniature - which was painted for his sister - framed for another. This always seemed to me to be so very thoughtless of Benwick. And Harville seems to think so: "I hope I can allow for him." And later: "And when I think of Benwick, my tongue is tied."

Benwick has recovered from the loss of Fanny, but Harville hasn't, poor dear.

And with a quivering lip he wound up the whole by adding, "Poor Fanny! she would not have forgotten him so soon!"

You have to love any man whose sister was so dear to him. And bless dear Frederick for seeing it was too much for Harville and taking over the job for him!

And the speech he makes about how a sailor misses his family,

"...what a man suffers when he takes a last look at his wife and children ... the glow of his soul when he does see them again..."