Yes, this point hits me quite personally as I have had twice in my life rather long experiences with nursing very sick people in my immediate family and have come to the same conclusion. There are those who remain ever cheerful, with perhaps the odd bad day, no matter what pain and indignities are forced on them, and those whose spirit gets low, who are difficult and can be a real trial to deal with. It is almost as big a challenge not to judge the person who is difficult harshly as it is to care for them.

"JA evidently concluded that admirable as this virtue was, you either had it or you didn't, and presumably you shouldn't beat yourself up if you didn't."