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Written by Maisy
(10/15/2005 11:19 a.m.)
in consequence of the missive, Grief is an individual thing. It may indeed follow a pattern, penned by Annette J.
I agree that grief is an individual thing. I do not believe it is terrible when a person who has experienced such a loss finds someone with whom to spend the rest of his/her life -- even if that occurs rather sooner than other people might wish -- as long as the grieving person is far enough along in the grieving process to be ready for a new relationship (otherwise, it spells disaster for both parties).
Looking at the situation in the context of JA's times:
Regardless of how we may personally feel about what a "proper length of time" should be in these circumstances, I think it important to lok at the situation in its proper historical and cultural context. That such expectations existed does support Mary's comments to Lady Russell, though I am convinced that had Mary been more pleased with Benwick's attentions to herself, she might have overlooked this shortcoming in him. ;-)
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