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What I mean by "at home" Written by Margaret 7 (9/27/2005 6:24 p.m.) in consequence of the missive, Is he around all of the time?, penned by Barbara

is the idea that, though he has work to do and sport to attend to (work and play would overlap somewhat in the life of such a man), Charles is not going off to the office and gone from home 10 hours a day, or more. Remember, he was missed at luncheon? And the boys, "fine, healthy boys" would have had the run of the property.

My point is, parenting was a less self-conscious enterprise in that day. I agree that JA seems to give more credit for good parenting skills generally to very few of her characters. But I think Charles seems a sensible fellow, whose sons would be matter-of-factly included as they made their daily rounds about Uppercross.

It is interesting to read Laura Ingalls Wilder's "Little House" books to see how parents handled their children in a bygone era. The children were valued, loved sacrificed for, but parents would tolerate no nonsense and required obedience. In "Farmer Boy" especially we see the youngest child being served his dinner last, and children being expected to be silent at the table. Parents did their work, and children did not interfere or interrupt.But this was part of the training of the child for his/her future work. Learn by observation, then be allowed to do tasks little by little.

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Parenting skills (or lack thereof) Barbara (9/26/2005 5:17 p.m.)

Great Thread, Great Discussion, Thanks (NFM) BarbaraB (9/29/2005 6:08 p.m.)
In defence of Charles Tracy W (9/26/2005 9:30 p.m.)
- Love your analysis of Charles! nfm Kalyn (9/27/2005 3:09 p.m.)
- Invisibility and the double standard... helena6 (9/27/2005 9:55 a.m.)
  - Agree on double standard - blame them both equally! ;-) (nfm) Line (9/28/2005 8:26 p.m.)
  - Sense of Urgency to meet CFW JoAnn Elizabeth (9/28/2005 9:33 a.m.)
    - Not in this part of the reading Barbara (9/28/2005 12:32 p.m.)
- Those invisible servants, again Delories (9/27/2005 4:19 a.m.)
  - The nursery maid debate KateL (9/27/2005 9:21 a.m.)
    - Why do we think little Charles in only three years old? Kalyn (9/27/2005 4:19 p.m.)
      - His parents were married less than four years Barbara (9/27/2005 6:28 p.m.)
        
        Thank you! nfm Kalyn (9/27/2005 9:20 p.m.)
- Anne's assessment? Barbara (9/26/2005 10:13 p.m.)
  - We may have to disagree Tracy W (9/27/2005 2:24 a.m.)
childrearing Regency style Margaret H (9/26/2005 6:04 p.m.)
- Actually, the Musgroves sound very modern to me! Annette J. (9/26/2005 6:23 p.m.)
  - Role Model for Physical Activity Pennie (9/30/2005 7:32 a.m.)
    - Yes! And now they give children podometers Kalyn (9/30/2005 4:52 p.m.)
  - It does when... Barbara (9/26/2005 6:37 p.m.)
    - Charles, his children, the times, and JA's language Kalyn (9/27/2005 3:40 p.m.)
      - JA and Mr. Bingley James S. (9/30/2005 11:14 a.m.)
      - Oh no!   Barbara (9/27/2005 6:24 p.m.)
        
        The truth from disagreeable or ridiculous characters   Line (9/28/2005 8:13 p.m.)
        
        Anne does not equal JA,   Jenny Allan (9/30/2005 7:46 p.m.)
        
        Oh, I don't think JA meant...   Line (10/1/2005 3:54 p.m.)
        
        Alterior Motives   Jenny Allan (10/3/2005 11:39 a.m.)
        
        sorry about Poole, but still feel JA's language supports CM   Kalyn (9/27/2005 9:50 p.m.)
        
        Reading and Charles Musgrove   helena6 (9/29/2005 4:57 p.m.)
        
        Bingley and Darcy and libraries   Kalyn (9/30/2005 4:24 p.m.)
        
        Let's not stray too far afield   Cheryl (9/30/2005 4:50 p.m.)
        
        sorry--it was in my earlier posts in this thread! nfm   Kalyn (9/30/2005 4:55 p.m.)
        
        Why Charles is presented positively   Kim in AK (9/29/2005 7:08 p.m.)
        
        Why marry Mary?   Lia (10/1/2005 10:11 p.m.)
        
        I think switching from one sister to another...   Line (10/2/2005 8:53 p.m.)
        
        Not to mention Mr. Collins, absurd as he is, switching from   Kalyn (10/3/2005 4:11 p.m.)
        
        We do know the interval   Barbara (10/2/2005 12:19 a.m.)
        
        Great points! nfm   Kalyn (9/30/2005 4:25 p.m.)
        
        I agree - Charles is no Mr. Collins   Line (9/29/2005 7:57 p.m.)
        
        Good Analyzation (NFM)   BarbaraB (9/29/2005 7:52 p.m.)
        
        He probably is typical   Barbara (9/28/2005 12:25 p.m.)
        
        John Dashwood lol - something for the shoppe?   Kalyn (9/28/2005 4:06 p.m.)
    - I wonder though if this was a major concern of people in Annette J. (9/26/2005 7:24 p.m.)
      - The point is...   Barbara (9/26/2005 8:15 p.m.)
        
        As Margaret 7 pointed out below, we don't really   Annette J. (9/27/2005 8:41 a.m.)
        
        Is he around all of the time?   Barbara (9/27/2005 10:15 a.m.)
        
        What I mean by "at home"   Margaret 7 (9/27/2005 6:24 p.m.)
        
        I agree. nfm   Kalyn (9/27/2005 9:55 p.m.)
        
        Sensible fellow?   Barbara (9/27/2005 6:41 p.m.)
        
        I don't think that Charles is all that much different   Annette J. (9/28/2005 4:47 a.m.)
        
        I agree--he's no hero (nfm)   Barbara (9/28/2005 12:36 p.m.)
        
        Too true! ;o) -nfm-   Maisy (9/26/2005 8:32 p.m.)
      - In JA's own family...   Maisy (9/26/2005 8:04 p.m.)
        
        Charles is unlike a modern father (long)   Margaret 7 (9/26/2005 10:20 p.m.)
        
        We live in a society that is so focused on children that   Annette J. (9/27/2005 5:20 a.m.)
        
        That's a good point, and easy to miss...   Delories (9/27/2005 4:23 a.m.)

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