Lady Russell can't be blamed for wanting Anne to slow down. How many people would be happy with the thought of a nineteen-year-old we loved being irrevocably married to someone out of the country most of the time in an dangerous and uncertain job who could easily leave them and any children starving?

The problem with Lady Russell's influence is that she wants what's best for Anne as she sees it - and she doesn't see very clearly sometimes. It's telling how she passes over Anne's dislike of Bath as "prejudice and mistake" because "Lady Russell was fond of Bath in short and disposed to think it must suit them all" and follows it up with reasons why Bath will be good for Anne. She doesn't seem to understand that Anne knows her own likes and dislikes and doesn't want the same things for herself that her godmother wants for her.