to share very personal information with others. Perhaps I just take things more personally than you do and am more reserved. I think love is such a tender subject. It's not just a matter of discussing different views--at least, as far as Lizzy is concerned. Since she wants to marry a man she loves and respects, her feelings will be very bound up in the discussion. Lizzy would be making herself extremely vulnerable to someone she may feel is suddenly a stranger to her. Perhaps it's comparable to one of the friend's you mentioned suddenly making it clear she has a totally different opinion than you on one of your most personal subjects you have shared with her over the years, when you thought you always saw eye-to-eye. Maybe for you, that would make no difference for future friendship and confidences, but I think it would for a lot of people. That's part of the way I read Lizzy's reaction to the engagement.