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|Valid or invalid objections to a marriage partner
Written by Barbara
(4/20/2010 12:43 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, I think the romantic ideals she criticizes in S&S..., penned by Connie
These are not real reasons to object to someone as a marriage partner--they are very superficial and immature objections, and not on the same scale as objecting to actual character defects in a person such as being vain, self-important, and silly, like Mr. Collins--or, as Marianne learns about Willoughby--a liar, a cheat, and a scoundrel. It's not wrong to object to a person who is likely to make you miserable and whose defects are not something that is ever likely to change.
Those kind of romantic ideals are dangerous because they are limiting, ignorant and unfair.
The things that are 'wrong' with Mr. Collins, in terms of spending the rest of one's life with him, are never going to go away or ever be made up for other redeeming qualities that are not yet evident. To object to spending one's life with such a person is entirely valid and goes beyond a romantic ideal, IMO.
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