I thought I was merely making the point that the other side would have to have an open mind for that to happen. I don't think I have ever excused Darcy for any bad behavior nor expected those imposed upon to suddenly reverse their opinions 'just because'. If his character is better and/or could be better than what we have seen, then it is certainly his responsibility to demonstrate that. On the other hand, no matter how much a person might work to earn a change of opinion, if a person/s persist/s in being influenced by the original first impression there can be no reversal of opinion. Just my personal opinion.

But thanks for the post so that I've had the chance to hopefully clarify myself---I think I was not clear enough in expressing that I didn't just expect the other side to just get over it but to be open to giving a person a second chance if information about that person or if that person him/herself eventually proved his/her character to be other (positively, of course) than what was represented the first time. I was thinking in somewhat in general terms also--- JA originally calling her novel "First Impressions" and what she might be trying to say as regards to theme. I still think it's a good point to consider and was just kind of posing a question, food for thought as we make our way through the novel. I will try to refer back to it as we continue. What can I say, just trying to keep up. :)