Catherine: "I do not like [Captain Tilney] at all. As it happens, there is no great harm done, because I do not think Isabella has any heart to lose. But, suppose he had made her very much in love with him?"

Henry: "But we must first suppose Isabella to have had a heart to lose — consequently to have been a very different creature; and, in that case, she would have met with very different treatment."

Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but Henry seems to be saying that his brother's behaviour was entirely dependent on Isabella's, that Frederick could not be expected to behave well all on his own. I'm certainly not defending Isabella, but Henry's line bothers me, since it seems to hark back to the old idea that anything bad that happens to a woman is her own fault. :-( Does anyone have any other explanations or interpretations?