That's interesting and well reasoned Rachel. I was thinking that Sir T had become rather bored and slightly irritated by Lady B's stupidity and torpor, but was well bred nad polite and did not allow his irritation to show or even really let it develop much in himself.. So he's able to show her polite good manners and kindness all the time unlike Mr B with Mrs Bennet.
But from what you say I think thtat perhaps he DOES in his heart prefer this woman who has no ideas or acitivity whatsoever to a more intelligent or slightly less lazy woman becuase it means that she'll never challenge him or do anything that he might disapprove of, not out of virtue but out of sheer laziness...
and that sseems to me to say something about SIr T... that he would generally speaking prefer a woman lying on a sofa to a woman of any kind of intelligence or purpose..
adn it means that he problaby has blinded himself ot the faults of Mrs Norris because he is aware that his wife is quite incapable of bringing up the children, so he has ot pass it on to someone...
Agree too that he's "Jekyll and Hyde" nad for me, his change on coming back from Antigua seems a bit strange.... pehraps because we dont really have access to his mind or feelings...