Her turn of phrase tickles my funny bone but Mr. Holder may have been a disagreeable man. The Biographical Index (Letters) has him born in 1747 so in 1801 he is fifty-four and still a bachelor. Of course, perhaps I am being unkind and he did not wish to marry and it means nothing at all but if all ladies felt as JA did then perhaps he was not married for a reason. (;D)