] And yet both Hamlet and Willoughby did claim to feel more for them then their callous treatment of these young girls made it appear. It is also interesting that for Hamlet this was expessed only after Ophelia was dead

But Hamlet does tell Ophelia that he loves her. In the letter he wrote to her that Polonius reads to Caludius (and how humiliating that must have been for her, to have to show her father and King love letters!):

'Doubt thou the stars are fire;
Doubt that the sun doth move;
Doubt truth to be a liar;
But never doubt I love.
'O dear Ophelia, I am ill at these numbers;
I have not art to reckon my groans: but that
I love thee best, O most best, believe it. Adieu.

And when they are being eavesdropped upon by Polonius and Claudius, he says to her "I did love you once."