I want you to save yourself from greater pain. Perhaps I may sometimes have felt that Harriet would not forget what was due -- or rather what would be kind by me."

This appeal to her affections did more than all the rest. The idea of wanting gratitude and consideration for Miss Woodhouse, whom she really loved extremely, made her wretched for a while, and when the violence of grief was comforted away, still remained powerful enough to prompt to what was right and support her in it very tolerably.

"You, who have been the best friend I ever had in my life -- Want gratitude to you! Nobody is equal to you! I care for nobody as I do for you! Oh! Miss Woodhouse, how ungrateful I have been!" (Chapter 31)

I confess Harriet resisted Emma’s efforts to disillusion her about Mr. Elton more decidedly than I thought possible and admit Emma tried. It is a neat trick for Emma to in one swoop make Harriet feel guilty for her behavior and suggest she has a want of gratitude for herself considering how Harriet got in into the state she is in. Emma’s new attack seems to have a good affect on Harriet but is manipulating Harriet’s affection for her fair-play? I can’t say that it is. It seems to be only asking Harriet to subvert her feelings about Mr. Elton for Emma’s comfort and deprive her of the only person she can speak to of what happened. This does remind me of when Emma soothed Harriet after she decided to refuse Mr. Martin by saying had she married him they could not be friends anymore—Chapter 7. Then as now, Harriet prefers any evil other than one which threatens her relationship with Emma. I also think it is amusing that Emma could talk of a want of gratitude for herself when she arranged Harriet’s visit to the Martin’s in a way that screamed want of gratitude on Harriet’s part towards them—Chapter 23. (;D)