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Written by BarbaraB
(2/23/2011 5:15 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, Perhaps our definitions of snub vary., penned by Reeba
I've never considered 'stonewalling' quite the right word for what Jane is doing. I looked in Johnson's to see if there was an early definition of it but did not find it listed. In the other sources, I checked it means to refuse to answer or cooperate. Since Jane answered Emma's questions, though in a general manner, this definition does not fit in my opinion. It would be like if I was at a party and had recently had surgery, and the hostess came up to me and began asking questions which I didn't want to answer; I would politely give general answers hoping to circumvent a personal discussion about it. Because I didn't answer questions that I considered private, I would not consider myself stonewalling. I actually had this happen to me at a Super Bowl party a few weeks ago but the person in question was not myself but my daughter and a health issue. When the question was asked, I really wouldn't have minded sharing with the person who asked but there was a room full of people and did not want to discuss this in an open forum. I gave a general answer, no one was offended, and the topic was amicably changed. People can't always fathom why someone doesn't want to talk about something. I was allowed to maintain my privacy without it being something unforgivable. Just my humble opinion... :)
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