The challenge is to find what is good about Mrs. E.

I want to sympathise with Mrs. E because of the number of times I came into a new office or moved into a small town or neighborhood with a society already established. I have to make decisions on how to best fit into any social or professional organization. Sometimes I encroach ("step on toes") when if I had known the person better, I would have approached the person responsible and requested.

Proving my worth takes effort and so much time.

However, Mrs. E does not appear to want to prove herself or acknowledge the established society she has entered.