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An Indifferent Acquaintance Written by Robbin (2/3/2011 10:00 p.m.) in consequence of the missive, Which makes [] good manners the more valuable, penned by Stephanie

I was not suggesting if Emma accepted Robert Martin’s acquaintance that she was safe from ever doing it again. I was saying accepting the acquaintance of Robert Martin does not elevate him to Emma’s sphere of society. At least that is what I think. (:D) Emma will not be obligated to invite him or other Martins to Hartfield for tea and Robert Martin’s correct behavior on Donwell road speaks to the fact she need have no fear the sensible Martins would ply her with “encroaching” invitations to Abbey Mill Farm.

Of course an acquaintance between Emma and Robert Martin would be guided by rules of etiquette and the important facts she is female and outranks him always gives the choice of notice and the degree of familiarity to Emma. As we see their lives it does not seem to me they would run into each other socially. What seems more probable is they might pass each other in public but here Emma is still safe from Robert Martin. Ladies had the choice to acknowledge or not to acknowledge men in public with whom they have only an indifferent acquaintance—see L&T post 48021 below. So if Emma really wanted to ignore Robert Martin’s acquaintance the next time she saw him on the road to Donwell or on the streets of Highbury she could do it “without her motives being questioned” (Etiquette for Ladies and Gentlemen Or, the Principles of True Politeness).

I found some L&T posts on introductions and several on the Donwell road incident specifically. I have read them before and they first put these ideas in my brain. It was nice to read JulieW’s lovely posts again. (:D) In post 47991 (below) part of the advice to both sexes for conduct towards inferiors was to “shew much humanity and some familiarity” (Precepts of William Lord Burghley to his Son) which is something Emma did for the cottagers (10) but failed to do towards Robert Martin on Donwell road. There are no spoilers in these posts but (danger) there are in the thread in which they reside:

Try this Written by JulieW (August 20, 2007)
http://www.pemberley.com/bin/archives/regarc.pl?read=48021

This chapter shows Emma at her most Written by JulieW (August 19, 2007)
http://www.pemberley.com/bin/archives/regarc.pl?read=47991

I think Written by JulieW (August 20, 2007)
http://www.pemberley.com/bin/archives/regarc.pl?read=48004

I hope your concerns have been gentled Stephanie. Thanks for reading! (:D)

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The Martins (longish) Nina RG (1/27/2011 2:55 p.m.)

The Martins and Emma Bridget D (1/28/2011 7:07 a.m.)
- I agree Nina RG (1/28/2011 8:46 a.m.)
  - Harriett and the Martins Bridget D (1/29/2011 2:43 a.m.)
    - Worser and Worser BarbaraB (1/29/2011 10:38 a.m.)
      - I agree as well! (:D) nfm Robbin (1/30/2011 3:34 p.m.)
      - I Agree Patricia AA (1/29/2011 11:58 a.m.)
      - Emma's treatment...   Reeba (1/29/2011 11:06 a.m.)
        
        Emma and Robert   Bridget D (1/29/2011 3:32 p.m.)
        
        I'll Just Say This...   BarbaraB (1/29/2011 5:49 p.m.)
        
        Emma's opinion of the Martins   Patricia AA (1/30/2011 9:17 a.m.)
        
        The Martins *were*...   Reeba (1/30/2011 3:24 p.m.)
        
        Harriet and talk   Bridget D (1/30/2011 2:10 a.m.)
        
        A good one. :-D   Reeba (1/30/2011 8:41 a.m.)
        
        I did not mean to imply necessarily physical interaction...   BarbaraB (1/29/2011 12:05 p.m.)
        
        Treatment   Reeba (1/29/2011 3:15 p.m.)
        
        Assertions Emma does not really believe?   Robbin (1/30/2011 3:26 p.m.)
        
        Emma   Bridget D (1/31/2011 1:20 a.m.)
        
        Wrongheaded indeed.   Patricia AA (1/30/2011 5:19 p.m.)
        
        It's the degree.   Reeba (1/30/2011 4:28 p.m.)
        
        Run the man down   Robbin (1/30/2011 11:03 p.m.)
        
        Not really :)   Reeba (1/31/2011 3:39 a.m.)
        
        Man of Information   Robbin (2/3/2011 10:24 p.m.)
        
        The Unfortunate 'but...'   BarbaraB (1/31/2011 3:14 p.m.)
        
        Mr. Knightley, a sensible man   Stephanie (1/31/2011 9:07 p.m.)
        
        Actually, I did write....   Reeba (1/31/2011 3:52 p.m.)
        
        very manipulative   Nikki N (1/31/2011 5:46 a.m.)
        
        Manipulation.   Reeba (1/31/2011 9:43 a.m.)
        
        To me, they are out and out lies -- even when   AnnetteJ (1/30/2011 4:08 p.m.)
        
        Emma   Bridget D (1/31/2011 1:22 a.m.)
        
        Not sure I buy that -- what evidence do we have of a   AnnetteJ (1/31/2011 7:20 a.m.)
        
        Evidence.   Reeba (1/31/2011 9:08 a.m.)
        
        Downplaying Emma's virtues?   Ramya (1/31/2011 9:03 a.m.)
        
        Anne is my favorite Austen heroine as well. Emma just   AnnetteJ (1/31/2011 11:18 a.m.)
        
        You Have Peaked My Interest In Harriet   BarbaraB (1/29/2011 7:16 p.m.)
  - Clownish here means ... Reeba (1/28/2011 9:18 a.m.)
This another reason why I love the group reads... jeffrey (1/27/2011 4:02 p.m.)
- The Martins sound like people most of us would like to AnnetteJ (1/27/2011 5:40 p.m.)
  - Disliking Emma - the reader's dilemma Melinda Mary (1/27/2011 5:53 p.m.)
    - Appreciating Emma Sarah Yorkshire (1/28/2011 6:54 a.m.)
      - Emma's Behavior BarbaraB (1/28/2011 2:39 p.m.)
      - Perhaps that's what... Reeba (1/28/2011 9:10 a.m.)
      - I like her too Nina RG (1/28/2011 8:36 a.m.)
      - Well, I guess that is one way of looking at her. I have   AnnetteJ (1/28/2011 8:29 a.m.)
        
        Want to add that I do not dislike the character but I   AnnetteJ (1/28/2011 9:15 a.m.)
        
        21st Century Emma   Sarah Yorkshire (1/28/2011 6:10 p.m.)
        
        Emma wrongs the Martins   Robbin (1/28/2011 10:28 p.m.)
        
        Class differences   Ramya (1/28/2011 8:53 p.m.)
        
        For me, the class system of that time and place is   AnnetteJ (1/29/2011 9:40 a.m.)
        
        Rank   Bridget D (1/29/2011 3:27 p.m.)
        
        The word snob didn't even exist then.   Reeba (1/28/2011 6:52 p.m.)
        
        Yet Emma is a Snob by definition   Robbin (1/30/2011 9:57 p.m.)
        
        The concept...   Reeba (1/31/2011 11:00 a.m.)
        
        Class & Regard   Robbin (2/1/2011 1:06 p.m.)
        
        Class and the Martins   Bridget D (2/1/2011 1:06 a.m.)
        
        I cannot accept that   Ramya (1/31/2011 3:15 p.m.)
        
        gentry   Bridget D (2/1/2011 1:13 a.m.)
        
        ashamed of [Harriet] for seeming so pleased and so doubtful   Stephanie (2/1/2011 11:00 a.m.)
        
        Sure! :)   Reeba (1/31/2011 3:37 p.m.)
        
        Donwell Road   Robbin (2/1/2011 11:57 a.m.)
        
        Which makes [] good manners the more valuable   Stephanie (2/3/2011 3:01 p.m.)
        
        An Indifferent Acquaintance   Robbin (2/3/2011 10:00 p.m.)
        
        Thanks, Robbin...   gianni (2/14/2011 10:48 p.m.)
        
        Thanks & glad to see you! (:D) nfm   Robbin (2/15/2011 9:51 a.m.)
        
        Well!...   gianni (2/18/2011 11:24 p.m.)
        
        Miss Taylor is Too Indulgent   Jane Marie (2/15/2011 12:39 p.m.)
        
        Loved so ever indulgently   Miss Barbara (2/18/2011 3:26 p.m.)
        
        Gentled, indeed, I thank you nfm   Stephanie (2/11/2011 9:22 p.m.)
        
        Road vs assembly   Reeba (2/1/2011 12:33 p.m.)
        
        The Farmer and the Nobody   Robbin (2/3/2011 7:10 p.m.)
        
        Emma and farmers   Bridget D (2/2/2011 7:11 a.m.)
        
        Snob   Bridget D (1/29/2011 4:11 a.m.)
        
        Emma, Class and Mr Knightley   BarbaraB (1/29/2011 11:28 a.m.)
        
        Good point!   Sarah Yorkshire (1/29/2011 4:37 a.m.)
        
        Harriet and Emma   Bridget D (1/29/2011 7:39 a.m.)
        
        Mr Knightley also says Emma is bad for Harriet   kathleen (elder) (1/29/2011 7:47 a.m.)
        
        Harriet's station   Bridget D (1/29/2011 8:02 a.m.)
        
        I see it differently   Ramya (1/29/2011 9:40 a.m.)
        
        Haririet and Mrs Goddards   Bridget D (1/30/2011 4:58 a.m.)
        
        My opinion of Mr Knightley's comment...   Reeba (1/29/2011 11:12 a.m.)
        
        rank and falling   Bridget D (1/29/2011 3:37 p.m.)
        
        Agree   BarbaraB (1/29/2011 7:12 p.m.)
        
        Harriet rising in the ranks   Bridget D (1/30/2011 2:17 a.m.)
        
        The book is always available :-)   kathleen (elder) (1/29/2011 8:10 a.m.)
        
        Also linked below the header of this board (nfm)   Myretta (1/29/2011 8:18 a.m.)
    - I have often wondered... Reeba (1/28/2011 5:36 a.m.)
    - You are right about quiting Laurie J (1/27/2011 9:13 p.m.)
      - Encouragement to persevere with Emma and not give up!   jeffrey (1/28/2011 10:38 a.m.)
        
        Lol, be patient with Emma.   Patricia AA (1/28/2011 11:07 p.m.)
        
        This is not the first time I have read Emma but I always   AnnetteJ (1/28/2011 11:20 a.m.)
    - Emma's attitude toward the Martins Anne-Marie (1/27/2011 6:36 p.m.)
      - Exactly on her social level?   Kathleen Glancy (1/28/2011 11:14 a.m.)
        
        My mind   Robbin (1/28/2011 4:15 p.m.)
        
        Match-making poor Mr. Woodhouse   Ramya (1/28/2011 8:57 p.m.)
        
        Mr. Knightley and Miss Taylor   BarbaraB (1/28/2011 11:21 p.m.)
        
        Mr. K and Miss Taylor   Kirk (1/29/2011 11:08 p.m.)
        
        Now that you mention it ...   Sarah Yorkshire (1/30/2011 7:32 a.m.)
        
        Now that you mention it...   Kirk (2/3/2011 12:30 a.m.)
        
        And why isn't Mr.Knightley married yet?   Kathryn Ann (1/29/2011 6:19 p.m.)
        
        Why, vexed? nfm   Stephanie (1/31/2011 2:17 p.m.)

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