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|Which makes  good manners the more valuable
Written by Stephanie
(2/3/2011 3:01 p.m.)
in consequence of the missive, Donwell Road, penned by Robbin
I agree that manners, than and now, are meant to make people feel comfortable in social situations. I agree that Emma might have agreed, out of friendship for Harriet, to be introduced to Mr. Martin, in whom Harriet has such esteem. However, the tenor of the rest of your post has me concerned.
I have been unable to find the archived post that was pointed out in another context, so please bear with my scattered memory. I seem to recall one of the Pemberlean experts quoting a contemporary etiquette book's advice on acknowledging ladies on the street, accepting acquaintances, leaving cards and the like. I remember it being rather the opposite of what you are implying. I believe allowing the introduction would require Emma to accept Mr. Martin's acquaintance in other situations, as it opens a door that can not be closed without implying a very insulting cut.
Additionally, one can accept the introduction in a way that is actually more insulting than simply avoiding it, as we see in other Austen novels. Emma might have asked to be introduced, but I count her follow-up conversation as MUCH more of a sign of snobbery than the non-meeting on the Donwell Road.
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